Every man struggles with lust to a degree. The lie most people believe is that marriage or sex takes care of lust. It doesn’t. As best as I can define, lust is the desire for something forbidden.

Forbidden is the key word.

Once you get married, your girl becomes your wife, she isn’t forbidden anymore, and you still have a lust problem.

Your desires change for what now is the next level of something forbidden. This cycle continues and never lets up. I believe this is why affairs happen so often and why men chase children for sexual pleasure. They’re all forbidden and lust isn’t satisfied.

Lust is a big deal and a lot of men struggle with it. Most won’t admit it, and therefore they never get the help they need.

There are two books that have been of great benefit to me. Every Man’s Battle is an average book size and is very good. Not Even A Hint is a smaller book that is a faster read. I often refer to it – even this week.

I also have software on my computer that keeps record of everywhere I go, and emails it to my wife and pastor each week. The software is called Covenant Eyes. I like it a lot.

Obviously reading a few books and installing software isn’t a turn key solution.

It is knowledge, perspective, and accountability though.

Lust will only be conquered through the transforming power of the Holy Spirit made possible by Jesus’ work on the cross. This comes at the great price of prayer, discipline, surrender, and consistent time in scripture.

Even memorizing scripture.

You’ve heard the saying, “garbage in, garbage out.” It’s true. It’s a lot easier for the life of God to come out of you if the Word of God is in you.

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that healing doesn’t happen in isolation. Surround yourself with people stronger than you.

Love always wins. Lust always wants.